Sorry, but I would respectfully suggest an edit of this quote: “When you meet a woman who is intimidatingly witty, stylish, beautiful, and professionally accomplished, befriend her,” Ann wrote. “Surrounding yourself with the best people doesn’t make you look worse by comparison. It makes you better.”
How about: “When you meet a woman who is witty and accomplished, befriend her.... Surrounding yourself with wonderful people makes you better.”
I just don't think "stylish" or "beautiful" are needed, and I don't like to imply such people are "the best people." There are a lot of good, intelligent, thoughtful, caring people who are not stylish or blessed with beauty. I don't like the idea of beautiful, well-dressed people being seen as "better" than others. I'd never choose my friends according to their appearance.
You have to remember the source material is from The Cut, the fashion blog of New York Mag, where they do put a lot of emphasis on style & beauty. Though I would argue that they are trying to expand what "stylish" and "beautiful" means beyond the traditional standards.
But I agree with you, 100%, you should not just pick your friends based on the way they look or dress. I think Ann's point is that you should try to befriend people you might typically be jealous of or intimidated by. But I don't think she would want you to make that your only criteria for making friends.
Lindsey! It was an honor to be featured, and I am so grateful to know YOU! So happy that the Substack world brought us back together. ❤️
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BEAUTIFULLY written, Lindsey!
I loved this so much!
Thank you!
Sorry, but I would respectfully suggest an edit of this quote: “When you meet a woman who is intimidatingly witty, stylish, beautiful, and professionally accomplished, befriend her,” Ann wrote. “Surrounding yourself with the best people doesn’t make you look worse by comparison. It makes you better.”
How about: “When you meet a woman who is witty and accomplished, befriend her.... Surrounding yourself with wonderful people makes you better.”
I just don't think "stylish" or "beautiful" are needed, and I don't like to imply such people are "the best people." There are a lot of good, intelligent, thoughtful, caring people who are not stylish or blessed with beauty. I don't like the idea of beautiful, well-dressed people being seen as "better" than others. I'd never choose my friends according to their appearance.
Sorry. Not trying to be rude.
Not rude, and I think this is a very good point!
You have to remember the source material is from The Cut, the fashion blog of New York Mag, where they do put a lot of emphasis on style & beauty. Though I would argue that they are trying to expand what "stylish" and "beautiful" means beyond the traditional standards.
But I agree with you, 100%, you should not just pick your friends based on the way they look or dress. I think Ann's point is that you should try to befriend people you might typically be jealous of or intimidated by. But I don't think she would want you to make that your only criteria for making friends.