So cool to read about a couple doing things their own way. I'm married with an 18 year old and 13 year old and often think about the fact that from the minute our first child was born, my relationship with my husband went from romantic partner to business partner. Not necessarily in a bad way - we absolutely love each other - but the only way we've found to return to "romantic partner" status is to take trips together sans kids. Even a short one night getaway does the trick. It's super-hard to switch into romantic mode in the midst of conversations about worrying rashes on the kids and long-range budget planning. 🤣😬
Yes, trips away are such a good way to rekindle romance! We've got two booked this fall (a wedding & a big 15th anniversary trip) and even the act of planning them feels romantic!
Though this couple has a unique relationship status, I gotta note how similar their story is to the ones about married/romantic partners. Co-parenting is a big, gnarly job no matter who you're sharing it with. It seems like this platonic arrangement gives some serious advantages to individual freedom, and maybe it changes a lot of the calculus that lives inside romantic co-parenting scenarios. This was a really interesting read and I appreciate Amrita and Andrew sharing their story.
This is such an interesting arrangement, thank you for sharing Amrita and Andrew's fascinating story! Amrita makes such a good point about heterosexual couples perceiving household tasks to be split 50-50 when it in reality it's usually closer to 70-30. Loved reading about their life!
I loveee Division of Labor and fascinated to read one with a different style of coparenting/partnership to my own! As a parent of a 19-month old, it actually looks a LOT like our house’s division of labor and schedule. :)
For spicing things up…ROMANCE NOVELS. I wasn’t previously a huge fan but the combo of Caroline Chambers and the gals of A Thing or Two recommending them have gotten me completely on board.
Loved this profile - very refreshing to be reminded of the many types of relationships that can constitute a family. I admire the “flexible, dynamic division that takes the shape and form of the moment” - speaks lots to their level of friendship and commitment to each other. Thanks for sharing!
Fun to do this, and fun to hear people's thoughts!! I've been thinking on this notion of the similarities between Andrew and my day-to-day to that of a romantic parenting partnership --- one thing that I just wanted to offer: Friendship can have a lot of intimacy and.... romance?
And certainly there's something inherently romantic in the cozy, daily intimacies of co-parenting!
So cool to read about a couple doing things their own way. I'm married with an 18 year old and 13 year old and often think about the fact that from the minute our first child was born, my relationship with my husband went from romantic partner to business partner. Not necessarily in a bad way - we absolutely love each other - but the only way we've found to return to "romantic partner" status is to take trips together sans kids. Even a short one night getaway does the trick. It's super-hard to switch into romantic mode in the midst of conversations about worrying rashes on the kids and long-range budget planning. 🤣😬
Yes, trips away are such a good way to rekindle romance! We've got two booked this fall (a wedding & a big 15th anniversary trip) and even the act of planning them feels romantic!
seriously - sometimes I think we enjoy the kid-free time in the car the most!
OMG, yes!
Though this couple has a unique relationship status, I gotta note how similar their story is to the ones about married/romantic partners. Co-parenting is a big, gnarly job no matter who you're sharing it with. It seems like this platonic arrangement gives some serious advantages to individual freedom, and maybe it changes a lot of the calculus that lives inside romantic co-parenting scenarios. This was a really interesting read and I appreciate Amrita and Andrew sharing their story.
Thanks, Joy! I felt the same way about the similarities!
This is such an interesting arrangement, thank you for sharing Amrita and Andrew's fascinating story! Amrita makes such a good point about heterosexual couples perceiving household tasks to be split 50-50 when it in reality it's usually closer to 70-30. Loved reading about their life!
So glad you liked it, Ramya!
I loveee Division of Labor and fascinated to read one with a different style of coparenting/partnership to my own! As a parent of a 19-month old, it actually looks a LOT like our house’s division of labor and schedule. :)
For spicing things up…ROMANCE NOVELS. I wasn’t previously a huge fan but the combo of Caroline Chambers and the gals of A Thing or Two recommending them have gotten me completely on board.
Ooh, romance novels! Love that tip!
Loved this profile - very refreshing to be reminded of the many types of relationships that can constitute a family. I admire the “flexible, dynamic division that takes the shape and form of the moment” - speaks lots to their level of friendship and commitment to each other. Thanks for sharing!
Fun to do this, and fun to hear people's thoughts!! I've been thinking on this notion of the similarities between Andrew and my day-to-day to that of a romantic parenting partnership --- one thing that I just wanted to offer: Friendship can have a lot of intimacy and.... romance?
And certainly there's something inherently romantic in the cozy, daily intimacies of co-parenting!
Ugh cannot believe the Substack Finance Feed thing! I mean. I can! But at the same time, come on. I feel like I’m reading a finance feed from 2009.
Haha, I know. Same! How can we make it better?!