Favorite DoL yet! I loved all the details (and the illustrations) and related to so, so much (even though my kid is younger) - the parental preference, the daily husband reminders, the extra-long bathroom breaks (it's somehow 30 minute showers for us?!) 🫠 Also loved the "toddler pushes you out the door" tip - going to try this week!
My favorite one yet. So real and I love all the details. Life is in there. So relatable. Love the toddler pushing you out tip. Mine are older now (15/13/9) but my constant tip is put a 'tiny bed' - aka mat - next to your bed. They can come and sleep there if they need you but they can't wake you up. Has saved my LIFE. And all three regularly sleep in their own beds but they all go through times when they need you and then they have somewhere to go with that need.
Thanks for reading and glad it was relatable! I love your tip—we have a mat on the floor next to our bed, too! Our daughter will use it but our son is too scared to (thus the reason we have one on the floor by his bed, too). Mats for everyone! 🤪
Sad to hear that it read this way to you! But I understand how it might if you’re not familiar with my comics. My work is focused on exposing the double standards and unequal expectations of moms vs. dads—the mental load of motherhood, the invisible labor, and the unpaid labor that is primarily done by women in heterosexual partnerships.
There are many reasons that so much more falls on mothers (many of them societal/structural) and a lot of my illustrations express frustration with the resulting dynamics. I try to do this in a playful way but there is also a challenging truth behind it that isn’t always easy to talk about.
Many moms are dealing with similar feelings *despite* loving their partners and their roles as mothers and I try to normalize these feelings (yes, sometimes feelings of resentment because moms’ lives change SO MUCH after kids and dads’ lives often don’t change as much).
And not to worry—my husband is highly aware of the goals of my work and supportive of it!
I’m familiar with concepts. I merely wish it could be presented in a way that emphasizes communication and working with the husband toward a common goal, and less man-hating. But I understand that isn’t a funny concept. My wife never speaks ill of me or my unique role as a husband and father and it’s something I cherish. I do more than half of the domestic duties as she travels for work and we both have full-time high level careers. Perhaps this plays a large role. Also, as a man, I think the humor just isn’t for me. I’m glad you are finding success in this endeavor. And I hope that you can work with your husband to find greater peace.
Favorite DoL yet! I loved all the details (and the illustrations) and related to so, so much (even though my kid is younger) - the parental preference, the daily husband reminders, the extra-long bathroom breaks (it's somehow 30 minute showers for us?!) 🫠 Also loved the "toddler pushes you out the door" tip - going to try this week!
Yay! I hope it’s helpful! Report back 😉
My favorite one yet. So real and I love all the details. Life is in there. So relatable. Love the toddler pushing you out tip. Mine are older now (15/13/9) but my constant tip is put a 'tiny bed' - aka mat - next to your bed. They can come and sleep there if they need you but they can't wake you up. Has saved my LIFE. And all three regularly sleep in their own beds but they all go through times when they need you and then they have somewhere to go with that need.
Thanks for reading and glad it was relatable! I love your tip—we have a mat on the floor next to our bed, too! Our daughter will use it but our son is too scared to (thus the reason we have one on the floor by his bed, too). Mats for everyone! 🤪
Am now busy consuming all of your work. Just shared the piece about women vs men in meetings with my women’s group at work.
Oh good! I’m thrilled for hear that it resonates (or not thrilled? 😬)
I loved this entire post, it made my laugh and cry at the same time. My husband enjoyed it too.
This one was really great! I’m getting my two kiddos ready this morning and I’m planning to have them push me out the door when we leave for school!!
I’ve loved Mary Catherine’s work for years, this was a great read!
I love Mary Catherine's sense of humor. Lovely! ~ I have the feeling they're going to be just fine. Step it up, Ben!🩷
I feel sorry for him and the contempt she has for her husband. Perhaps it is her version of humor, but it just feels like hating on her husband.
If I were her husband, I would be horrified to read that published about our relationship.
Perhaps I'm looking at this wrong, but it feels gross.
Sad to hear that it read this way to you! But I understand how it might if you’re not familiar with my comics. My work is focused on exposing the double standards and unequal expectations of moms vs. dads—the mental load of motherhood, the invisible labor, and the unpaid labor that is primarily done by women in heterosexual partnerships.
There are many reasons that so much more falls on mothers (many of them societal/structural) and a lot of my illustrations express frustration with the resulting dynamics. I try to do this in a playful way but there is also a challenging truth behind it that isn’t always easy to talk about.
Many moms are dealing with similar feelings *despite* loving their partners and their roles as mothers and I try to normalize these feelings (yes, sometimes feelings of resentment because moms’ lives change SO MUCH after kids and dads’ lives often don’t change as much).
And not to worry—my husband is highly aware of the goals of my work and supportive of it!
I’m familiar with concepts. I merely wish it could be presented in a way that emphasizes communication and working with the husband toward a common goal, and less man-hating. But I understand that isn’t a funny concept. My wife never speaks ill of me or my unique role as a husband and father and it’s something I cherish. I do more than half of the domestic duties as she travels for work and we both have full-time high level careers. Perhaps this plays a large role. Also, as a man, I think the humor just isn’t for me. I’m glad you are finding success in this endeavor. And I hope that you can work with your husband to find greater peace.
There is clearly some resentment there. I felt very uncomfortable reading this.