"Who do I need for my baby?" YES! This is the best question I've heard for parents to ask themselves. I think so often we buy stuff because we're trying to replace the extended caregiving and support networks that we no longer have easy access to in our lives. Cultivating that community is so essential.
I’m married to a Dutch guy so I know about, and am very jealous of — European services. I had my children in the U.S. with my first husband and still live in the U.S. I parented in a similar way, wearing my babies in a sling, nursing full-term, etc. My second baby was similarly unwilling to spend time away from me. He’d cry if I even got up at night to pee! Not to worry — by kindergarten he was as cool as a cucumber about being away from me while many of his classmates cried for their moms. This piece brought back many memories.
I think the idea of twinning with another family is very cool and helpful! When you don't have direct relatives around, it's looking to people who you feel comfortable with and people who show up.
Aw, I can totally relate to feeling low after a busy day that didn’t go as planned. My heart yearns for her even though reading this it is SO clear how awesome she is at both admin tasks and mothering! You got this Vanessa, your kiddos are so lucky to have attentive and loving parents! ❤️
“Instead of thinking, “What do I need for my baby?” we should ask, “Who do I need for my baby?” 💯💯💯💯💯💯
Came here to say this, too! Such a good reframe!
I love this idea, too, Claire!
"Who do I need for my baby?" YES! This is the best question I've heard for parents to ask themselves. I think so often we buy stuff because we're trying to replace the extended caregiving and support networks that we no longer have easy access to in our lives. Cultivating that community is so essential.
Yes! 100% agree!
I’m married to a Dutch guy so I know about, and am very jealous of — European services. I had my children in the U.S. with my first husband and still live in the U.S. I parented in a similar way, wearing my babies in a sling, nursing full-term, etc. My second baby was similarly unwilling to spend time away from me. He’d cry if I even got up at night to pee! Not to worry — by kindergarten he was as cool as a cucumber about being away from me while many of his classmates cried for their moms. This piece brought back many memories.
I think the idea of twinning with another family is very cool and helpful! When you don't have direct relatives around, it's looking to people who you feel comfortable with and people who show up.
Also, international DoL is very cool too!
Aw, I can totally relate to feeling low after a busy day that didn’t go as planned. My heart yearns for her even though reading this it is SO clear how awesome she is at both admin tasks and mothering! You got this Vanessa, your kiddos are so lucky to have attentive and loving parents! ❤️